Valentine’s day love

Love is one of the most sought after things in the world.

We read and hear about love everywhere we go.

Lyrics like,

“What’s love got to do with it?

“Is this Love?”


“I’m searching for real love”

indicates we all long for it.

God is love and he formed you into his likeness; therefore, being made in his “likeness” means you encompass love. You were created to love and be loved.

In other words, love is part of your genetic makeup; you need it like the body needs water.

But when you inquire about love, the meaning varies from person to person and it seems unattainable, because of misguided information about where it should come from and what it should look like.

However, everything leads back to God and his definition of love.

Don’t believe everything you feel

Advertisers evoke deep emotions on Valentine’s Day because Ads are specifically design to make you feel bad about yourself.

They offer temporary bear hugs and chocolate highs, and even prompt married couples to question and prove their love by buying expensive gifts.

Social media is no better because many posts infer that the single status person is lacking.

Some attempt to use their words carefully, but to the heart who hasn’t identified the meaning of true love, these subliminal messages are loud and clear, “You’re missing something.”

I believe most people are genuine and mean well, but what bothers me most are the ones who assume every single person dread their posts on love, so they began with a miserable apology for acknowledging their significant other.

Sadly, folks have been lead to believe that being in a relationship, whether dating or married means you’ve found love.

Having been on both sides of the fence, that’s far from truth and you can experience loniless with or without a mate.

The impression that having someone in your life equates to love is the biggest lie the media and those looking to sell love will tell you.

Discover truth

Truth is, both singles and married couples can struggle if  their idea of love derived from snippets of people’s life on social media, magazines and television.

You can only alter these skewed images and experience love at its best when you grasp the true meaning of love (God’s love).

To the heart that crumbles and falls apart while reading posts on Valentine’s Day or the one who avoids them all together,

love is not about a commercialized day filled with candied hearts, stuffed Teddys, walks on the beach and candle light dinners.

These are not bad things to crave, but are extra special when you’re in the right love relationship with God and yourself first.

Perhaps you hurt because you have unknowingly bought into this notion yourself, that Valentine’s day is the ultimate expression of love.

I used to be there, so I know how simple words and gestures that implies missing love can make you feel muddy inside.

What is love?

God revealed the mystery to this unending question for me in 2009 while studying his word and reading “A Love That Never Fails” by H. Dale Burke.

Stop Looking for "love" Learn to love instead

Friend, as simple as it may seem the answers to real love is found in 1 Corinthians 13.

Remember, you were created by Love and the love you yearn can only be experienced through Love himself (God).

Therefore, if you’re unsure about His love for you or you’re not loving like He indented, how can you fully enjoy love’s benefits?

Want to give and receive the highest form of love?

Before you slip into “La La” land and waste your time day-dreaming about unrealistic stuff, start searching for “real love” by working through these characteristics in your life:

  • Selfishness: Do you put people first, and can you sacrifice your needs and desires for someone else?
  • Patience:  Do you get frustrated with yourself and others and abandon people and tasks when you can’t see progress?
  • Anger:  Do you fly off the handle for no good reason, and are you always on an emotional roller coaster?
  • Mercy:  Do you overlook people’s shortcomings or you think everyone should get what they deserve?
  • Jealousy: Is it difficult to have genuine joy for others?
  • Trust: Do you judge often, find fault in others and self-sabotage relationships?
  • Kindness: Do respond with gentle understanding or are your speech and actions tainted with harshness?
  • Pride: Are you always right and take credit for everything or can others share the limelight?
  • Hope: Are you pessimistic about life and it’s difficult to see beyond your circumstances?
  • Humility: Do you elevate yourself or God?
  • Forgiveness: Do you harbor pain, rejection and find it hard to to release those who have wronged you?
  • Endurance: Do you perservere or are you quick to bail out when things are hard?

Mastering these traits for yourself and identifying them in others will determine the type of love you give and invite into your life.

If you’re not addressing the areas mentioned above, you’re not prepared to love another blemished person.


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